"So, what do you do?"
Fine as an opener. The trouble is the next question, which is usually another opener. Ask about the part of their answer that had some life in it.
An AI dating coach
Practice dating with a coach who tells you why.
Rehearse real dates, get honest notes on every line, then meet people who did the same work.
The chair across from you is where it gets real. Practice it here first.
Who's practicing?
DateDove coaches young men growing into steady, kind men, young women growing into grounded, self-respecting women, and anyone getting back out there. Pick yours. The rest of this page will use it.
Practice with
- Practice datesTwelve real moments, from the first message to the goodnight. Your partner reacts like a person, and warms up when you're curious.
- A note on every lineDove says what worked or what to try, and always why. Rules you understand are rules you keep.
- LessonsTwo to four minutes each, with one line for your track and one question to check it landed.
- Message reviewPaste a text before you send it. Get a better version in your own voice.
- A wingman in your chatsReply ideas, date plans from what you share, and a quiet warning when something looks like a scam.
- Matches who did the workDating opens once you've earned your wings, and so does everyone else's.
The why
You've said all of these. So has everyone.
Here's what Dove would tell you about each one.
"Haha yeah."
A reply with nothing in it hands all the work back. Add one detail, or one question, so they have somewhere to go.
"You're really hot."
It tells them the only thing you noticed is the part they didn't choose. Compliment a choice instead: their laugh, a story, their taste.
"Sorry, I'm so bad at this."
Apologising for yourself asks them to look after you. Confidence mostly means not doing that.
"We should hang out sometime."
It feels safe because nobody can say no to it. That's also why it almost never happens. Name a day and a place.
"My ex used to..."
Now there are three people at the table. Save it for when they ask.
Every note in DateDove comes with the reason, so you can use it on a date Dove never sees.
Now say less.
Maya, 29
She's waiting for a gap.
Dove
Keep scrolling and you keep talking. Stop for a second.
You 0%0 of 3 stories heard
Debrief
Your notes from that table
You talked 0% of the time and heard 0 of her three stories.
That's what a practice date in DateDove feels like, minus the scrolling. You talk, your partner answers, and Dove measures what each line did. At the end you get this: six skills, how much you talked, and the things they would have told you if you'd asked.
Start practicingPractice debrief
Leave a little more room.
You 0%A good balance sits near the middle
What you heard
- Nothing yet
What you missed
Matching opens when you've earned your wings.
- Two practice datesSo you've felt the notes work.
- Three lessonsLeave room, the second question, say what you want.
- A real profilePhotos, a bio, and your answers to the values questions.
- A confirmed emailOne click, and you're in.
Then Discover opens. Everyone you meet there practiced too. Compatibility comes from your answers, and it shows you which ones you share.
The small print, in large type
- 18 and over only. Checked at sign-up and on every profile.
- Your location stays rough. Rounded to about 11 km, shown as "about 15 km away".
- Scam and pressure flags. If someone asks for money or pushes you off the app, Dove tells you, quietly, on your side only.
- Block and report anywhere. Reporting blocks straight away. A person reviews every report.
- Your data is yours. Download all of it, or delete it, from Account. Nothing is sold.
Free
$0
- 3 practice dates a day
- Every lesson
- 15 message reviews a day
- Matching and chat once you have wings
- The Dating API, 50 calls a day
Pro
Opening soon
- 15 practice dates a day
- More reviews and wingman help
- 500 API calls a day
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Dating API
Put Dove inside your own app
Score a line for free, review a message, or run a whole practice date with notes and a debrief. Keys act as the member who made them, and the API never lists other members.
Read the referencecurl https://datedove.com/api/v1/score \
-H "Authorization: Bearer dd_your_key" \
-d '{"text": "hey"}'
{"score": 43, "notes": [{"tone": "tip",
"text": "A bare \"hey\" puts all the work
on them. Mention one thing from their
profile and ask about it."}]}Questions
Is Dove a therapist?
No. Dove is an AI dating coach. It's good at rehearsal, honest notes and talking a worry through. If you mention self-harm or abuse, it stops coaching and shows you real help lines, because a person on one of those lines can do things a coach can't.
Who are the practice partners?
AI characters, each with a job, a personality and a few things they'll only tell you if you ask well. They live inside practice dates only. They're never shown as members, and nobody in Discover is a bot.
Where do the scores come from?
From code, not from the model. Every line is measured for questions, follow-ups, what you shared, and anything pushy or unkind. The model writes Dove's words; the numbers are counted.
How does matching work?
Once you have your wings, Discover shows members who fit your filters both ways, sorted by how your values answers line up. You see which answers you share before you like anyone. A match needs two likes.
What happens to my conversations?
Practice dates and talks are stored in your account so you can see your progress. They're sent to the AI service that writes Dove's replies, and nowhere else. You can delete any of them, or everything, whenever you like.
What does it cost?
DateDove is free to start, including matching. Pro will raise the daily limits. It isn't on sale yet.
Homework, from Dove
One practice date before Friday.
Leave room. They'll fill it.
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